Action number one: Reframe what's lame
Reframing or reinterpreting negative thoughts plays a vital role in resilience. Reframing helps prevent negative thoughts and feelings from acting like gremlins, because those negative emotions can multiply, intensify, and overwhelm one if they are left unchecked. Below are 3 tips to help reframe.
- Swap "have to" for "get to"
- Go from "why me?" to "why not me?"
- Turn "to-don'ts" into to-do's"
Action number two: Find a role model
Nearly every one of the highly resilient people Dr. Charney and Dr. Southwick studied named at least one person they looked to for cues on how to behave in the face of, think about, and approach extreme stress. The person you choose could be anyone - a friend, a family member, a famous person, a child, etc. It can be someone who suffered similar hardships or someone who fought a totally different fight. Here is the important thing; when facing adversity, they embody the resilience you want to have, inspiring you and showing you a way forward.
In our next post we will continue with more helps.
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